Tonight’s post is a personal reflection. It is fitting, since every event that has unfolded up to now has led to the crucial moment that is fast approaching. Shift Sight is here because of care and concern. Enjoy a unique, free-written piece that unfolded [like us] with only grammatical editing. (The titles and quote were added later.)
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Here we are.
Where could we be? Where should we be?
We turn to cause and effect to make sense of our world. The work may happen at the subconscious level – we wake up one morning with an “aha” moment, feeling perfectly content that we now understand a past situation.
A conclusion is a hard stop to seeking a higher truth. “Could be” crystallized into “must be.” It becomes part of who we are; a plastic change to our mind.
Perhaps our realization is wrapped in a healthy dose of language – symbols that are inherently non-specific, since each of us biases words according to our own neuroplasticity.
My experience is not your experience, no matter how hard we try to share it with a heartfelt exchange. Am I destined to not understand you? I do not believe in fate or fixed outcomes.
My hand has already been dealt, and it is up to me to play my cards. Based on our birth lottery, you could have easily been given my hand. What would you have done? Even when someone only has one card showing, we are quick to judge and label.
We assume we can walk in their shoes. We judge instead of understand. My shoes do not fit you. I cannot wear yours. Technology tends to obscure this point and drives us further apart under the guise of bringing us together.
“Some of us will always be trying … to improve ourselves in one way or another. Self-renunciation … these are all names for the same thing … the art for which there is no technique.” – Alan Watts, Become What You Are
We expend tremendous energy trying to control our surroundings. It provides a sense of safety and security – if we can make ourselves externally comfortable, we believe that it will lead to internal happiness.
Humans are not hardwired to be happy. We are wired to be right.
I have encountered people who have greatly confused these two. They believe that attempting to control their circumstances and people around them will lead to an improvement in their situation – that being right leads to happiness.
Being right is zero-sum. Happiness is not.
Expending energy to control a situation because you are captivated by your own opinion – to the point that you throw personal relationships under the bus – has very little to do with being happy. Directing that energy into taking the time to care – instead of taking the time to be right – is a better outcome for everyone.
Being happy is not intuitive and takes work. There is no owner’s manual. This is an art for which there is no technique.
You need to walk in your own shoes, hoping for a personal experience that transcends words and understanding. A moment of absolute clarity when you begin to wonder if you have the cause and effect backwards. Today’s technology will not give you clarity. It will help you retreat into a false safety of a well-controlled world: a binary, zero-sum game of right and wrong.
Nobody has the same map. What purpose does the compass serve?
Happiness is about letting go of outcomes. It is not about letting go of concern.
The butterfly effect is both tangible and elusive. Interdependence is all around us – a single word from a loved one or a stranger can change the trajectory of your thoughts for the day. A single word. A symbol that, even though you can I cannot agree on its meaning, clearly changes both of us.
We are all bound to the lottery of our birth. Suppose that we are both are given an identical task to complete, we both had identical circumstances, we both worked equally hard, but only one of us can complete the task. Who succeeds and who fails?
Failure is a label that no longer has meaning in my vocabulary. I have let go of the outcome.
But I hold tight to the concern. In many ways, this planet is dying. Its inhabitants are not faring much better.
What small thing can you do today? Do you have a kind word for someone you haven’t spoken to in awhile? There is no right or wrong outcome as long as you care and do not give up.
I founded Shift Sight with my wife because we care. We also suffer in ways that are not apparent. I will explain more with the Jade reveal, as the update will include information on the team.
In theory, the beating of a butterfly’s wings can have unfathomable effects. In practice, small actions have amazing outcomes, even if we are not there to observe it. Remember the kind word that I mentioned? If you believe small things are insignificant, try to sleep in the same room as a mosquito.
I do not believe that Shift Sight is too small to change the trajectory of a large industry. We have our work cut out for us, and it will be a long and arduous road. Things that are worth doing are usually not easy.
Stay tuned for the concept reveal countdown.
Ty is a Founder of Shift Sight, LLC.